Is Coaching Like Counselling?

Is Coaching Like Counselling?

No.  

Coaching is about asking questions in a way that allows the other person to figure out their own way.  

Counselling is about talking with the patient regarding their past traumas figuring out what’s right and wrong.  

 

Coaching is a conversation by the end of which both people would have reached an elevated state of being. How they get there is by asking questions and looking to see the answers that might be there. It’s in the now process that helps you move from a disturbed space and into an opening.  

Counselling is concerned with your past and your psyche or your cognition. It has more of a healing aspect to it. For example, cognitive behavioral therapy is part of the training curriculum for Counselling. CBT is about changing patterns in your mind’s behavior and therefore achieving relief.  

Coaching doesn’t mean Counselling at all. No past traumas or re-patterning of the mind. It’s simply communication in the present moment that will allow the other person to get back in the flow. It’s for socially stable people and everyone else who doesn’t consider themselves in need of medical help or feels fucked up in the head. No. If I am your coach and I notice there are past issues that are coming up, I am in my full right to refer you to a specialist who deals with that kind of thing. If I am a good coach, I would discontinue coaching you and encourage you to find the right professional for your situation. 

Coaching doesn’t blend into therapy, or mentoring, or counselling or consulting. Each one of these practices is different than the other and has its own purpose.  

Therapy is very specific on you receiving the energy from a therapist. 

Mentoring is when someone with a number of years of experience can teach you what they know. 

Counselling is dealing with past issues.  

Consulting is about providing a solution for you. 

Coaching is about space holding, listening, questioning and engaging in a goal-oriented conversation with you.  

From Dictionary  

Counselling the provision of professional assistance and guidance in resolving personal or psychological problems. 

From Wikipedia 

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance. The learner is sometimes called a coachee. 

The major difference that gets me here is: problems and goals  

Indeed, I help my people achieve their goals. I support myself using coaching to achieve my goals too. If it was a problem then indeed a counsellor is better suited for the job.  

There you have it. Coaching is not like Counselling and if you are working toward achieving personal or professional goals, a coach will be of good use to you.  

I am ending this writing with a reference to Life Coach Library’s article on Certified Life Coach. I think it will be a major discernment on your behalf to work with a certified life coach instead of someone who is proclaimed.  

Thank you for reading.  

Love.  

Delina 

Opening The Mind

Opening The Mind

Our minds are often too busy and we don’t think properly, and we don’t take time out to do absolutely nothing. This nothingness of space is very beneficial. How do we get there? 

 

It’s not a place we get to, it really is a state of being? The mind can’t do being because being happens in the heart and even deeper in the seat of the soul.  

One of the best things we can do to open our minds is to start with guided meditations. They will bring about a small amount of time in an altered state of mind. This will be enough to begin with, to see an opening for more later on.  

There are also the live transmissions of people who have devoted their entire life to be in an open receiving and receptive state. These leaders amongst us are connected to that nothingness of space and then they radiate that energy, that frequency so that those listening can entrain with it and feel it too.  

You can also read books with encoded messages inside, again from divine source, channelled through a human being and into a sequence of words. As you read the sentences of a written live transmission, your mind steps to the side and rests. It is in that resting time that your mind is given a chance to open and see the world anew.  

Eventually, you will learn how to love your mind such that you give it what it needs to be renewed and therefore to be thinking properly.  

Doing nothing is not possible. Nothing is a state of being and you get to it when u drop the doing on mental, emotional and physical level. For example, I sit still and I know for me I need to stop fidgeting with my body in order to get quite and enter my mind space. From physical to mental. In the mental space I start to hear people’s voices and thoughts and things they have said to me but if I continue to sit still and remember to be the observer, then I move to the emotional level. I start to feel fear, anxiety, and then relief or relaxation. At this point I try to remember to breathe through the emotions, so I breathe deeply and on purpose. Deliberate breaths in and out while still remaining static. Eventually, I reach the zero-point space. Also known as the reset or nonconditioned consciousness. This is the nothingness of space. This is the absolutely doing nothing dimension. As I remain still and breathe, I am aware of vast open emptiness. Usually, on the way back towards getting up and doing something, I start to get inspired solutions because my mind has been opened to receive new perspectives.  

Like I said a guided meditation can get you to this nothing space for a short period of time which can be and will be enough to begin with. My favorite guided meditations are these: Teal Swan’s Vault 

I also love the live transmissions of Matt Kahn and one book that I know for a fact has encoded live transmission in it is: The Sophia Code. 

I think another easy and super simple way to get back into an open mind is to change your focus a few times a day. Turn to your heart. Put a hand on your chest where your physical heart is and set a timer for 10 minutes. Even if you don’t say anything, don’t do anything, the simple hand to heart connection is going to reset your nervous system. If you learn to say nice things to yourself, then that would be even better. For that reason, I am including my favorite mantras in both languages Bulgarian and English.  

healing mantras for the inner child

The more we start to honour our minds are the most hard-working machine ever, the more it will relax and be soothed. Openness comes only after we are relaxed and we are in the body. If we are pushing or striving, it won’t happen. A delicate balance between doing and being, between appreciation and striving, between taking action and resting is needed if you want your mind to open and function well. Just like nature, she moves through her seasons and just like in sexy time, the female needs moisture to open otherwise it’s off balance, its braking an entry and it’s a violation. I think the great reset we are living through with the Covid situation is telling us to slow down, listen, connect to the silence, there is nothing to do, nowhere to go, no one to become, no extreme mountains to climb. We have time to be still and it is there in that stillness that you will find an opening. From that opening you will find the inspiration and resources to complete a project infused with fresh energy and confidence. When your mind is rested, you may experience more confidence and certainty.  

I love how much change is being cooked underneath the seemingly closed doors and restrictions. My only wish is that we all take self-care and self-love god dam serious.  

I am here if you have questions or if you want to get a card reading from me.  

Love.  

Delina  

 

 

p.s. I just remembered the acronym

WE – word embodied

ARE – awareness + resolution = expansion

ONE – openness never excludes

 

which reminds me to highlight that a closed mind is like a small child and it requires love more than anything else. Love being tender care and attention, listening, patience and so on.

Can you work with teams?

Can you work with teams?

Can you work with teams? 

 

Simple answer is Yes, I can. A team of six or seven people as oppose to 20,30 100+. 

I would love to be able to connect with everyone in the team. You know coaching is a conversation that is between two people and one of them is asking the questions. It’s a relationship essentially. I hold that to be true for me, therefore a small team would benefit more than a large group. The relationship I can build in a small team will be stronger and more intimate than the relationship in large team.  

You know, I would really love to have twins one day which will make my family a team of 7 beings, two kids, a man and three cats, plus me, that’s 7. Or it may be 6 or 8, if I have triplets. The point is, I will be attuning to each individual in the team because only through attunement can I really understand the other, feel them, hear like them, see like them and therefore lead them.  

I’ve experienced large groups of people coming together for a coaching training and still the connection happens only between the coach and the participant. Two people at a time while the rest are watching or listening. However, in big groups of 100+ the non-participants are more and harder to attune to. So, small teams will glean more benefits from working with me.  

Businesses can hire a coach and assign a small group of employees to him or her. So, if you are a business owner, or you work for somebody, a company or an organization and you are looking for me to coach your team to the next level than I say ‘yes’. 

It would feel scary, challenging, empowering and exciting to come into a group of people and be the coach. I would show up as me, raw and authentic with royal integrity. I would keep things real, honest, and my heart will be all in.  

If you are familiar with human design, then you will know about the Projector type of people. I am a projector which basically means I can very easily, effortlessly pick up others visions and inspirations and highlight them. Expand on them so much so that they buy it. If you are not familiar with human design, then all you need to know is that it is a self-training, self-assessment type of structure, like numerology and astrology. 

Let me know if you have any questions. I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you for reading.  

Love. 

Delina 

 

Какво Да Питаме Картите?

 

В това кратко видео споделям най-лесния въпрос за теб, който ти можеш да зададеш на картите. Натисни зеления бутон за да си зададеш въпроса към картите. Блгагодаря ти.

 

 

Задай Въпрос Към Картите.

Виж какво казват другите за гледанките на карти със Делина. 

Благодаря ти че гледа.

С обич.

Д

Крайбрежна Гледанка на Карти с Делина

Крайбрежна Гледанка на Карти с Делина

Аз възнамерявам да гледам на карти цял живот. Усещам го като мое призвание, също както сесиите, но те са за отделна тема, в друга статия. Гледането на карти което правя Аз не е Таро.  

Аз го наричам Крайбрежна гледанка на карти и аз съм избрала три чифтета карти които не са Таро. Картите като цяло са инструмент и аз съм си подбрала три вида които ще ви покажа в тази статия. Таро карти не съм виждала, нито пък докосвала, и не ги знам. Те са изпълнени със символи които после се разтълкуват но при мен се случи друго.  

божествена насока картиАз си купих първия чифт карти веднага щом една от моите учителки ги създаде и пусна за продан. Те се казват Божествена Насока и показват 77 честоти. Работя със тях от 6 години и много си ги обичам. Супер точни са и имат съвсем светло намерение да ни показват пътя. Пътя към божественото и съвършеното. Тези карти са супер цветни и имат различно значение ако ги изтеглим нагоре или наобратно. Имат си малка книжка която през годините се разруши. Вятъра ми открадна няколко страници които след това си принтирах и добавих. Лепилото се разлепи и ходих на обущар да ми завърже страничките. Понеже имат две значения, аз все още не ги знам всичките наизуст и чета книжката.  

 

Преди две години, 2019, си купих още два чифта карти специално за работа. Единия чифт е Сляпата Точка, а другия е Лековитите Изречения.  

Сляпа Точка картиКартите във чифтето Сляпа Точка се казват Магически Символи и показват тъмната страна на подсъзнанието ни. Те показват това което вече не виждаме защото действа някъде много надалеч във дълбините на съзнанието ни. Всичко което сме отхвърлили и отрекли и вече не искаме да го виждаме, ще се появи когато питам Оракула Сляпата Точка. Да, тези карти са Оракул карти и са 78 на брой. Те няма значение дали излизат надолу с главата. Върху тях има нарисуван Магически Символ и номер, след което във книжката Аз трябва да видя какво означава. Доста са брутални но в днешно време това е необходимо. Всеки който си е чул сляпата точка, ахва защото знае че е вярно. Тъй като се потискат тези неща, само ти самичък или самичка ще си знаеш колко е вярно за теб. Но аз давам пълен вот на доверие на моите Магически Символи.  Тези карти са създадени от същата жена която направи Божествената Насока.  

До колкото знам, още два вида карти ще излязат скоро. Едните ще са свързани със ценностите ни, а другите ще са свързани със Вълшебни Същества. Но, не е Таро.  

Лековити ИзреченияПоследния чифт се казва Лековитите Изречения и е уникален. Този чифт е създаден от друг мой учител, мъж, с когото аз работя от години и му имам пълно доверие. Купих си ги веднага като излязоха и съм супер доволна. Те са нежни и директни, и са 52 карти. Покриват духовното и енергийното лечение през което всеки един от нас преминава. Много ги обичам и ги намирам за прекрасна добавка към другите две чифтета. Имат благи пастелни цветове и няма значение дали са наопаки или нагоре с главата, значението им е все едно и също.  

 

 

 

 

 

 


Крайбрежна гледанка на карти си е мое заглавие и идва от обичта ми към водата, морето и плажа. Пита се един въпрос и се теглят 5 карти. На пример, ако поискаш картите да ти кажат каквото имат да ти кажат просто ей така без нищо конкретно тогава ще ти покажат: 

Текущата ти ситуация 

Какво да правиш 

Какъв ще е изхода

 Лековито Изречение

Сляпата ви Точка

Аз ги синтезирам вместо теб и ти пращам обобщеното съобщение на картите. Това е много на кратко как гледам на карти. Възможно е да имаш конкретна ситуация или интерес за нещо което ти предстои.Аз отново тегля 5 карти но понякога може да са различен брой от различните чифтета. Аз съм нагласена да ги разгадавам и после работата ми е да ви предам съобщението така че да го разберете. 

 

крайбрежна гледанка на карти

Имам и други гледанки на карти които са описани по-подробно във магазина ми.  

Натисни тук за да идиш в магазина

Аз съм супер щастлива да бъда в услуга на теб и на теб и на всички нас. Харесва ми да използвам този инструмент – картите. Намерението ми беше да поясня че не са Таро. Ако имате въпроси моля ви пишете ми.  

С обич. 

Делина и картите.   

Делина и Картите

Can I hire you for my online business? 

Can I hire you for my online business? 

Can I hire you for my online business? 

 

A question worth considering and answering is the question of hiring someone to do a job for your online business. There will be times when the answer is yes and there will be times when the answer is no. If you like, we can have a look at some scenarios when I would say ‘yes, let’s work together’ and also examine some examples of times when I would say ‘thank you, but no thank you’.  

Times when I would agree to work with you: 

  • You are ready and willing to improve something about yourself. 
  • Your vision and dream are finally coming to fruition. 
  • You need and want to get things done and be accountable. 
  • You are learning how to love yourself and how to care for yourself. 
  • You want to impress your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend or husband, wife. 
  • A desire to learn from someone you like and appreciate has opened up in you. 
  • You need a quick guidance with conflict or dilemma. 
  • You have had enough of dealing with negativity and you have let go. 

In all of these scenarios, you and I will work well together, to move forward into a better quality of life, of being, of feeling alive and replenished 

 

Other times, I would say ‘thank you, but no thank you’. For example: 

  • You want to be with me but not as your coach or card reader. 
  • You do not show up for out appointments. One time not showing is enough for me to say no thank you.  
  • You sent me naked pictures of yourself, or videos or any other MEME or scam, junk.  
  • You speak badly of me but then you say you are sorry and you want to keep going.  
  • You become or you are abusive and violating my boundaries, being disrespectful. 

These are people I would not want to work with. If I notice that you are like that, I would pray to have the strength to say ‘thank you, but no thank you’. I reserve the right to cancel a coaching cycle or a card reading based on one of these examples.  

 

The question: Can I hire you for my online business?  

‘yes, you can’. 

 

I am available to take on my work and I am looking forward to meeting you.  

Love.  

Delina